When I was early in my 20’s, I had a girlfriend and I was so scared stiff by the question, ‘what if she leaves me, would I be able to find another girlfriend’? It can be translated, if we break up, will I be able to fool another one? 

I am normally introvert and it takes time for me to fall for someone and it is so intimidating to start conversations especially with girls. And the cherry on top, I was not in a good position to be able to have a bargaining power in dating world if I may. 

I wasn’t physically attractive, I was a skinny and I had this bad acne. 

I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to fool someone else for another time. But I was wrong, that wasn’t true. 

As I mature and in my late 20’s, I realised that I was afraid because I was not in a good position to be able to have the confidence to approach a girl. So, I learned it a hard way when I discovered that I should go to the gym before it’s too late. That’s when I decide to start going to the gym; and from that time, I started feeling worthy and I gained that physical confidence. And I wasn’t afraid of exposing myself to others. 

My advice…. 

You need to be confident and independent from thinking that you can’t find someone else:

1. Go to the gym and gain that physical confidence which comes with it 
2. Find what you like and keep trying to find what you are interested in 
3. Put yourself in a position where you are not attached to anyone or anything, then you can move in life with no fear or with minimum fear

You don’t know how confident you are until you put effort into it and you will discover that you are much more than you are. 

—— Jado